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To educate survivors and the community to prevent domestic violence oppression in the lives of survivors with hope, healing, compassionate advocacy, support and comprehensive resources.
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A society where every domestic violence survivor has access to the resources and support needed to regain their independence, heal from trauma, and thrive. To engage in surrounding communities to curb domestic violence and to pursue and provide resources to those most impacted by domestic violence
Angelina – My Story
Why didn’t you leave? Why did you stay? I would hear years after my life with this abuser was over. Did anyone ever ask why did the abuser stay? In the summer of 1983 I fell in love I thought with a young man who looked like everything I ever wanted in a man. Tall full of life, oh how he made me laugh in a time I needed it, handsome, from a good family the list goes on and on… Read more
Healing survivors from the effects of Domestic Violence.
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Domestic Violence AwarenessDomestic Violence often occurs when the abuser believes that abuse is an entitlement, acceptable, justified, or unlikely to be reported. It may produce an inter-generational cycle of abuse in children and other family members, who may feel that such violence is acceptable or condoned. Many people do not recognize themselves as abusers or victims because they may consider their experiences as family conflicts that got out of control.
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Domestic Violence: It’s EVERYBODY’S Business!
Domestic Violence Definition – So, what is Domestic Violence?
domestic violence is a pattern of one person trying to dominate and control another person. This involves different types of abusive ways. It is a repetitive process of abuse where the perpetrator gets hold of the victim in a consistent manner. Domestic violence comes in different forms and ways in different areas. Many authentic studies prove that most of the victims are women. Don’t be fooled by the name. This form of abuse can take place in workplaces as well. For your better understanding, here are the main domestic abuse categories:
Physical Abuse: Pushing, kicking, strangling, or any other physical violence.
Sexual Abuse: forceful sex, sexual assaults, sexual threats, and many others.
Emotional Abuse: Threats, manipulation, lies, stalking, name-calling, and several more.
Economic Abuse: Denying access to bank accounts and other financial platforms.
If your partner does any of the above or anything similar, you’re being abused. Get help and get out of it, ASAP!
domestic violence is a pattern of one person trying to dominate and control another person. This involves different types of abusive ways. It is a repetitive process of abuse where the perpetrator gets hold of the victim in a consistent manner. Domestic violence comes in different forms and ways in different areas. Many authentic studies prove that most of the victims are women. Don’t be fooled by the name. This form of abuse can take place in workplaces as well. For your better understanding, here are the main domestic abuse categories:
Physical Abuse: Pushing, kicking, strangling, or any other physical violence.
Sexual Abuse: forceful sex, sexual assaults, sexual threats, and many others.
Emotional Abuse: Threats, manipulation, lies, stalking, name-calling, and several more.
Economic Abuse: Denying access to bank accounts and other financial platforms.
If your partner does any of the above or anything similar, you’re being abused. Get help and get out of it, ASAP!
Do people underreport Domestic Abuse?
Yes, domestic abuse is significantly underreported across all communities. Many survivors remain silent due to fear of retaliation, shame, or not being believed. Others may be financially dependent on their abuser, worry about losing their children, or feel emotionally manipulated into staying. Cultural stigma, lack of trust in law enforcement, and fear of legal consequences—especially for undocumented individuals—also contribute to underreporting. As a result, many cases go unnoticed and unaddressed, allowing abuse to continue in silence.
In addition, some survivors may not recognize certain behaviors as abuse, especially when it is emotional, verbal, or financial rather than physical. The lack of awareness, combined with isolation and control by the abuser, can prevent individuals from reaching out for help. Breaking the silence requires community education, safe spaces for disclosure, and accessible, trauma-informed resources that empower survivors to come forward without fear or judgment.
In addition, some survivors may not recognize certain behaviors as abuse, especially when it is emotional, verbal, or financial rather than physical. The lack of awareness, combined with isolation and control by the abuser, can prevent individuals from reaching out for help. Breaking the silence requires community education, safe spaces for disclosure, and accessible, trauma-informed resources that empower survivors to come forward without fear or judgment.
Causes & Consequences
To solve a problem, you first need to understand what’s causing the issue. That’s pretty standard stuff, right?
So, what causes a person to hurt another person in the pursuit of control and dominance.
So, what causes a person to hurt another person in the pursuit of control and dominance.
What causes Domestic Abuse?
1. Power and Control Dynamics
- A primary root of domestic abuse is the abuser’s desire to dominate and control their partner.
- Often fueled by entitlement, jealousy, or insecurity.
- Abusers use intimidation, manipulation, isolation, and threats to maintain control.
- Exposure to abuse in childhood or within the home can normalize violent behavior.
- Cultural or community acceptance of violence reinforces harmful patterns.
- Lack of positive role models or healthy relationship examples plays a role.
- Untreated mental illness or trauma can contribute to aggressive behavior.
- Alcohol and drug abuse may escalate violent tendencies but are not the root cause.
- Poor coping mechanisms or emotional regulation often result in abusive actions.
- Gender inequality and patriarchal norms can enable abuse.
- Economic dependence or lack of social support traps victims in dangerous situations.
- Inadequate legal protections or weak enforcement can embolden abusers.
What are the effects of Domestic Abuse?
DV is never a good thing. Never! Victims are at the risk of many troublesome consequences. Here are a few of the drastic effects of abuse:
- Emotional and Mental Health Damage: Victims may suffer from anxiety, depression, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and suicidal thoughts.
- Physical Injuries and Health Issues: Abuse can result in bruises, broken bones, chronic pain, and long-term medical conditions.
- Impaired Self-Esteem and Confidence: Constant belittling and control can destroy a survivor’s sense of self-worth.
- Disruption in Daily Life and Employment: Many survivors struggle to maintain jobs, housing, or education due to the effects of abuse.
- Negative Impact on Children: Children who witness abuse may experience trauma, behavioral issues, and repeat the cycle in adulthood.
- Isolation from Support Systems: Abusers often isolate victims from friends, family, and resources, increasing their dependency and helplessness.
Domestic Violence & Divorce
Domestic violence is a leading cause of divorce, as it creates an environment of fear, control, and emotional or physical harm that makes a healthy relationship impossible. Survivors often face immense challenges in leaving abusive relationships due to fear of retaliation, financial dependence, or concerns about child custody. The decision to divorce an abusive partner is rarely easy and often involves navigating threats, manipulation, or legal intimidation. For many, divorce becomes a necessary step toward safety, healing, and reclaiming independence.
The intersection of domestic violence and divorce is complex and frequently requires legal protection such as restraining orders, supervised visitation, and advocacy in court. Survivors may need trauma-informed support to navigate the emotional toll and legal obstacles while prioritizing their well-being and the safety of their children. It's essential that service providers, courts, and communities recognize the added danger and vulnerability survivors face during divorce and respond with compassion, urgency, and protection.
The intersection of domestic violence and divorce is complex and frequently requires legal protection such as restraining orders, supervised visitation, and advocacy in court. Survivors may need trauma-informed support to navigate the emotional toll and legal obstacles while prioritizing their well-being and the safety of their children. It's essential that service providers, courts, and communities recognize the added danger and vulnerability survivors face during divorce and respond with compassion, urgency, and protection.
Dealing with DV
Here comes the important question. ‘How to deal with abuse?’ Well, there’s no exact rulebook for you to follow. However, you can do a few things that can help you handle the abuse.
If you’re the victim
When you’re being abused or harassed by your partner, try doing these:
If someone you know is the victim
Your life is fine and dandy. That’s great. You can your energy to help someone whose life is in the opposite spectrum of yours. Consider taking these steps to help a DV victim:
If you’re the victim
When you’re being abused or harassed by your partner, try doing these:
- Seek support: After realizing your ordeal, getting help is the first thing you must do. Try talking to a friend that’s close to you. Or, you can approach a counselor. Discuss your situation and get their help.
- Consider a refuge: There are many refuge homes out there, for people like you. If you feel unsafe to live in your home with your partner, this is the way to go.
- Report: If you think that you’re in a danger, complain to the authorities immediately. Police will protect you and direct you to the appropriate action you should be taking.
- Get a lawyer: Not every one of us is proficient in understanding laws and acts. So, to deal with your situation without any mishaps, hiring a lawyer is your best bet.
- Don’t delay: This is the most important of the lot. Most of the people commit this very mistake. Thus, repeated assaults and abuses. Don’t be one of those victims. Act accordingly and immediately.
If someone you know is the victim
Your life is fine and dandy. That’s great. You can your energy to help someone whose life is in the opposite spectrum of yours. Consider taking these steps to help a DV victim:
- Be empathetic: Most of the times, an abuse victim is drained out of all their spirit. They may not initiate a discussion about their troubles. Here, you need to be patient with them. Make them feel comfortable with you. They will definitely open up.
- Don’t judge them: You don’t know what a person is going through. If you feel that someone is in a bad position, please never judge them. Doing so might make things worse for them. Moreover, they may end up not opening up too.
- Know the warning signs: To help a victim, you first need to identify them. Not every victim discloses their suffering. How do you define a victim? Learn the warning signs. Black eyes, sprained wrists, busted lips, and bruises are some of the common indications.
Get Help and Get Out of the Abuse
Anyone can be a victim of domestic violence. It doesn’t spare any gender, race, or region. Commoners to celebrities, everyone is at the risk of this evil. If you believe that you’re facing this issue, seek help. Because, there is help. And, it can end your misery.
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ACTION ALERT: Contact Your Representative and Tell Them to Vote YES on Reauthorize and Strengthen FVPSA
The Family Violence Prevention and Services Act (FVPSA) is one of the three pillars of the Federal response to domestic violence. It provides core funding for more than 1,500 domestic violence programs nationwide and supports more than 240 tribes and tribal organizations as well funding state domestic violence coalitions and funding a network of training and technical assistance resource centers. It also funds the National Domestic Violence Hotline and the StrongHearts Native Helpline. FVPSA grants keep doors open and lights on.
FVPSA has not been reauthorized since 2010, and expired in 2015. While it is still being funded, it is vulnerable to cuts and it is woefully out-of-date. The bipartisan, bicameral Family Violence Prevention and Services Improvement Act (H.R.2119/S.1275) contains key updates to increase access to services for all survivors and to invest in prevention.
FVPSA has not been reauthorized since 2010, and expired in 2015. While it is still being funded, it is vulnerable to cuts and it is woefully out-of-date. The bipartisan, bicameral Family Violence Prevention and Services Improvement Act (H.R.2119/S.1275) contains key updates to increase access to services for all survivors and to invest in prevention.